So, when she says her ex has him for the night, consider it excellent news. The timeline on real-life offspring will likely be age-dependent: Babies have no idea you exist. Show kindness and a semblance of liking kids—but don’t go overboard or kiss her munchkin’s ass. Even with modern fertility science, all tadpoles come with some sort of father.
Note: This doesn’t mean sex will happen at her place. Talk to him as if he were your boss’s wife or a dental assistant. Chances are there will be four parties in this relationship: you, her, her kid—and the Birth Father.
A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.
Just take it slow before you play any type of father figure role in the childs life though. You will get less attention from her than you would from a woman with no kids.
You might end up with a lovely little family, who knows? If you do not mind being a step daddy to this kid and you really like his mom, them give it a try you have nothing to lose and everything to gain However remember when dating someone with kids, if it doesn't work out you lose the kids and they lose you too and kids tend to fall hard so if there's any doubt in your mind you might want to think long and hard before rushing in Well young man , you are young and its a lot for you to take in at a early age, I don't know if you dated a lot before but she is older with a kid, you are at different stages in life, you are just beginning adult hood and she has started and has a child.
Which I am sure says a lot about how I feel for this woman and the direction I am looking to go with her.
Also, I will not neglect to mention that she is 23 years old and that isn’t even the issue. I have made the conscious decision of not dating anybody with any children because I don’t want to deal with the other parent or become part of that responsibility.